How we overlook good things about each other

They say not to worry about what people will think. Yeah, well, I gotta say, that's not entirely true. I've noticed that many ppl miss out on amazing people and opportunities because they're stuck on the idea that if they don't get any negative feedback, they're perfect. Including me btw. But let me tell you, there's a little something called silent disapproval. Ive learned about it the hard way so let me make it easier for you.

So…

While negative reactions may sting, they're at least an indication that someone cares enough to express their concerns. Silent disapproval, on the other hand, can be more damaging because it often goes unnoticed. When people quietly distance themselves from us due to our behavior, it can lead to the loss of interesting and valuable connections. The lack of feedback can also prevent personal growth and self-improvement.

One common misconception is that if our behavior doesn't attract criticism, it must be entirely acceptable. However, this isn't always the case. Silence might indicate that those around us are hesitant to provide constructive feedback for various reasons, such as a fear of confrontation, a desire to maintain harmony, or not wanting to hurt our feelings.

We got some easy practice for this tho:

1. Self-Reflection: Engage in regular self-reflection and self-awareness. Even in the absence of criticism, assess your behavior and actions to identify areas for improvement. Self-awareness can help prevent repeating the same mistakes.
2. Seek Feedback: Actively seek feedback from trusted friends, mentors, or colleagues who are willing to provide constructive criticism. Encourage them to be candid in their assessments. Constructive feedback is a valuable source of personal growth.
3. Mindful Behavior: Practice mindfulness by paying attention to how your actions and words affect others. This can make you more sensitive to potential issues or areas where your behavior may need adjustment.
4. Recognize the Importance of Feedback: Understand that constructive criticism is a valuable tool for personal and professional development. It can help you avoid repeating mistakes and continuously improve.
5. Learn from Mistakes: When you do receive criticism or feedback, use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Instead of becoming defensive, consider it a chance to make positive changes in your behavior and actions.

Silent disapproval is a subtle but powerful force that can quietly erode relationships and hinder personal growth. Instead of fearing negative reactions, we should be more concerned about the absence of feedback, which can lead to complacency and the perpetuation of harmful behavior. By actively seeking feedback, practicing self-awareness, and understanding the value of constructive criticism, we can avoid the silent consequences of unaddressed behavior and continuously strive to become better versions of ourselves. Remember, silence isn't always golden; sometimes, it's a missed opportunity for growth and connection.

The last thing I want for people, including myself, is to become invisible. I don't want others to overlook us just because we have some flaws that might distract them from recognizing our true potential.

Hope that was helpful!